About Foundations

You’re probably not here because you’re looking for more information.

If information were the answer, you’d be done by now.

You’re here because something no longer adds up.

Maybe a relationship ended, or someone betrayed you in some way.

Maybe you woke up one morning and realized the life you’d spent years building no longer fit.

Whatever brought you here, you’ve likely discovered that some experiences change more than circumstances.

They change you. Not all at once and not always dramatically in a way people recognize on the outside...

But quietly, the things you trust, the choices you make, and the stories you tell yourself about who you are and what your life means.

Foundations is a place to explore what happens after that.

Not the event itself.

The woman standing in its aftermath trying to make sense of who she is now.

The woman discovering that what shattered wasn’t just trust, certainty, or a future she counted on—but the identity she built around them.

Here we’ll talk about identity, desire, power, relationships, work, grief, responsibility, and the hidden assumptions shaping our lives.

We’ll question things, pull apart stories, and follow threads that don’t always lead where we expect.

Sometimes we’ll find answers.

More often we’ll find better questions.

Because the most important shifts in our lives rarely happen when we learn something new.

They happen when we finally see something that was there all along.

Welcome.

Pull up a chair.

We’re just getting started.

About Me

Hi! I’m Lois StGermaine.

For more than three decades, I built a successful life by most conventional standards.

I climbed the corporate ladder, led large teams, made good money, collected titles, and became exceptionally good at holding everything together while navigating divorce and raising children.

From the outside, it looked like success.

From the inside, I often felt like I was performing a version of myself I no longer knew how to leave.

Over the years, I’ve experienced my own share of identity-shattering betrayals—some done to me, some done by me, and some delivered by life itself.

What I discovered is that the event is rarely the thing that changes us.

It’s what the event exposes.

The assumptions we were standing on.

The identities we built around them.

The stories we mistook for truth and our unconditional attachment to them.

Foundations grew out of that realization.

Not because I have all the answers.

Because I’ve spent years asking better questions.

Today, I write, teach, and facilitate conversations about identity, desire, power, emotional responsibility, and what happens when the life you counted on no longer makes sense.

I’m glad you’re here.

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